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Dear Mr Akins,

What would you consider “legitimate” rape? And are women’s bodies soooo magical, not only can we create life, but we can halt the beginning of that creation? How does that work? Our pituitaries just yell out, “NOPE THIS IS LEGIT, HOLD THAT OVULATION SCHEDULE” Because believe me, pressure on women to NOT get pregnant is hard enough with regular relationships (and if you don’t have sex, you’re “frigid”, weird or a bitch…) but now we’re expected to control our bodies during unwanted sexual attacks, as well… You know if we had that kind of conrol, believe me, the world would not be nearly so overpopulated. Seriously.

Women who’ve been assaulted do not WANT to be punished twice by first being violated, and most times beaten, then having to carry an unwanted child they KNOW is part of their attacker, then having to go through the pain of labour?? Ugh. Some women I’ve seen on talk shows keep the babies they’ve carried and birthed through rapes, but sweet jesus, that can open up another can of worms…What if the father decides he wants custody? It happened in Oklahoma!!


I’m also very interested to know what he would consider “legitimate” rape? When the girl wasn’t drunk? Dressed conservatively rather than with short skirts? Because I’d like to present a scenario that perhaps might be considered “legitimate”, Mr Akins, just let me know…

A friend of mine was working at a dining establishment in a rather well-heeled section of town, taking out the trash after dark.  She was dressed in her uniform of black pants, white button-up collared shirt and her hair was braided.  Her assailant came from behind…She never heard him coming. He knocked her unconsious by hitting her in the back of the neck with a baseball bat, and assaulted her in the darkened alley.  Several minutes had gone by before her co-workers had discovered her missing and found her unconscious still and bruised, broken and called an ambulance.

Legit enough? If it hadn’t been for her thick braid down her back, the doctors speculated the damage could’ve been worse

Unfortunately, while she was offered Plan B, the second pill made her sick immediately and she found herself pregnant, several months later. Too late for an abortion, as she hadn’t told her friends what had happened, and had gone through the entire first trimester in a fog of denial.

After figuring out this couldn’t be ignored, she came to friends who took her in, attended the baby’s birth and helped her pick out adoptive parents.  While this has a happy ending for a couple who would’ve been unable to have a child otherwise, and the baby in question,  I can’t describe the fear and uncertainty my friend went through. The pain, the revulsion she felt from her own body’s betrayal by making her live through that time being investigated in the emergency room and having to hear she’d been sexually assaulted.  Having to go through the pain of labour and nurturing a newborn for the first few days of his life, not ever having wanted children? Why would you wish this on women? Why would you leave yourself in blissful ignorance of what a woman goes through during these times?

Why won’t you get off your ass and do some fucking research before letting the world know how ignorant you are? The reason some women DON’T get pregnant from rape is because rapists rarely ejaculate.  Rape is not about sex. It’s about power and abuse.

Having power over someone weaker than you.  No rapist gives a flying fuck if they get you pregnant or not.  They just want to have that power, see that fear in your eyes.

THAT’S what people have trouble understanding.

And the whole “She was asking for it” theory just chokes me right up….
True story.
I attended a country party when I was seventeen.  I wore a short skirt. I was drunk. I was with people I don’t know. I had a guy hanging on me, wanting sex. Guess what? I didn’t get raped.

Guess why? I said no, and the boy in question listened.  Some would argue I was lucky.

I argue my date for that evening acted the way a human male SHOULD act.  I said no. He stopped.  It’s seriously that easy, people.

And thank you Mr Akin, for turning an abortion/women’s rights issue into a rape issue. Smooth.  Let’s make women feel worse about not having control of our bodies by reminding us “HEY, why don’t you have control over your own bodies? Like absolute complete god-like control?”

Damn. I wouldn’t wish pregnancy from rape on anyone I love OR hated.

Enough of this stupid legitimate rape/not-rape talk, let’s get back to the issue, which is giving women their bodies back.  And please, google that shit before you talk.


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Not daycare..SCHOOL.  He’s starting full-days kindergarten.



He had no time for sentimental pictures and mommy crying…NO TIME!!

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